Not sure how to talk to your partner about coaching?
Follow these three steps:
Before you even think about approaching your partner tap into the part of you that remembers what drew you together in the beginning. Find the love you still have inside, and the place within that authentically wants to see your relationship succeed. Approach with love and compassion for your partner.
Set up for success
Look for a moment where you are both relaxed. Don’t have this conversation when they are preoccupied with work, on devices, or in a stressful moment. If they are doing something, with a gentle tone, let them know you would like to have a conversation before launching into it.
Look them in the eye with warmth and an inner smile, remembering the person you love and the relationship you are standing for. “Hey babe, can I talk to you about something?”
For couples who are having trouble:
“I know we have been having some challenges lately and I take responsibility for my part in that. I love you and I know we can transform this relationship back into something amazing, but I think we need some support. I found a relationship coach who specializes in working with couples like us and I’m wondering if you would be willing to join me in a Skype call with her to see how she can help us?”
For couples who are ready to up-level their relationship:
“We have an amazing relationship and I know we are both interested in growing as individuals and together. I’m imagining the next level of expansion in communication, intimacy and exploration. I’m ready to use our relationship as a way to unleash our full potential. Are you open to exploring this with me? I found a coach who specializes in working with couples and I’m wondering, would you be willing to join me in a Skype call with her to see how she can help us up-level our partnership and impact even more people?”
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